We've all had days that could have gone better. Maybe someone was snippy with you, someone cut you off in traffic, or you got some unfortunate news. Most of us don't go around advertising to the world that we've had a bad day. But it can show in our behaviors, whether or not we're aware. The last time someone I love was having a bad day, I was extra kind to them. I was mindful in the way I interacted with them, because it's important that they know I love and care for them, and that they matter. Now imagine that you've just ordered a coffee, and the barista was a bit rude to you. Maybe they rolled their eyes when you took longer than they thought was necessary when placing your order, or had an angry tone with you for no reason whatsoever. You could have taken it personally and matched their energy, or you could decide that this person needs a little extra kindness in their day, and left them with a nice tip and a smile at the end of the transaction. So why would you be kind to someone who wasn't kind to you? First, we have no way of knowing what's going on in that person's life. It's possible that they don't have anyone who would be mindful of their need for extra love and care after getting bad news, and they're having to deal with everything on their own. Second, other people's behavior doesn't need to dictate ours. We get to choose when to be kind, regardless if someone 'deserves' it. And finally, we know that being kind begets kindness. Your simple act of kindness can spread faster and further than you'll ever know. So this week's message is this: Remember that your kindness spreads like ripples in an infinite pond, touching more than you can possibly imagine. —David-Dorian Ross |